The public is shifting its attitudes on gays serving in the military!
But frankly, unless "the public" has served or is serving, why does it matter what "the public" thinks about gays in the military?
Too often in gay debates, non-stakeholders make themselves out to be potential victims if the "gay agenda" gets its way. When the reality is this: what will really change in your typical hetero's life if gay people were given the legal and financial benefits of marriage or gays were allowed to openly serve in the military?
See, what chaps Middle America's ass is that if gay people were "given" the benefits of marriage, then heteros would then have to "subsidize" gay relationships with their tax dollars. Nevermind that the gays and lesbians are already subsidizing hetero relationships with their tax dollars. We pay for the government pensions that hetero spouses receive, we pay for the court system that resolves (the many) hetero divorces, we pay for the social security benefits that go to hetero spouses and not ours. For instance.
People on the anti-gay side of "the debate," by virtue of their hetero privilege, often like to make themselves out to be stakeholders and potential victims. They cover their fear, misunderstanding, and/or hatred of gay people with slippery slope outcomes such as "gay marriage will destroy the family" and "the public doesn't agree with gays in the military."
For instance, I recently partook in a "debate" (if you can call it that) with someone who instead of backing his position up with arguments, merely stated that he, as a hetero, didn't want the institution of marriage to be "tampered with." The debate grew tiresome as I quickly found that his way of "debating" is to pretensiously define arguments he doesn't agree with as "childish" and "un-scholarly" and, by using Big and Very Important Words he tries to intimidate his "opponents" by questioning their intellect and trying to humiliate them. Such tactics are surprising given his devout religious beliefs- beliefs that he seems to use mostly to judge other people (morally, intellectually, and religiously) than to further true religious inquiry and devotion.
But I digress.
Frankly, I don't care that people who are sitting pretty with their 1,000 legal and financial benefits of a state-recognized civil marriage funded in part by my tax dollars don't want "their" institution "tampered" with. Because, in reality, many gays and lesbians already have relationships that for all intents and purposes are marriages. And, civilization is still trucking along. Not to mention that the only major threats I see to civilzation are terrorism, endless war, and environmental destruction.
And, I don't care that people who are too cowardly to serve in the military, or people who have other options of improving their lives than the military, don't want our military to have gay people in it. The fact is, is that it does and it always will- whether some people are comfortable with it or not. So we can recognize that reality or keep on pathologically pretending that they don't and that arguments against gays in the military are predicated upon anything other than bias.
The "Gays in the Military" issue is one that I have mixed feelings about. On the one hand, LGBT folk should be able to openly serve in the military and receive the benefits that serving can bestow on a person. You know, intangible benefits like confidence, honor, discipline, and experience along with tangible benefits like the GI Bill, federal hiring preference, and retirement/health benefits. And as a country, why would we not want willing and able people to serve? Especially in these times. But, our "uniter not a divider" president continues to make black and white, good and evil divisions among us.
But on the other hand, I sometimes question why LGBT people should bother joining the military. It is a military that doesn't allow gays but is now so desperate for bodies that it is accepting felons, racists, and gang members- all of whom seem more like national security threats than gay people do.
And, if and when they return from war, LGBT persons return to a country that refuses to grant them the full rights of citizenship, freedoms and rights that heterosexuals who have never served their country receive.
Sometimes, I think we give our country more than it deserves from us.