On "Fragility" and Boundaries

I did a quick Twitter thread the other day on the notion that setting boundaries makes a person weak and means they are fragile.

Try setting even the most basic, simple boundary with a stranger. Say, block a shitty person on Twitter. Watch them create multiple accounts so they can come back at you and squeal at you how you setting a boundary "against" them is human rights violation of the first order.

The fact is, most tough-talking "politically incorrect" white guys would crumple if they had to spend even one day as a prominent feminist/person of color on Twitter.

I'm here to interrogate the assumption that it makes someone "fragile" to set boundaries. Communicating even the most basic, simple boundaries is often not received well. People who set boundaries know that it usually entails receiving pushback and escalation of rude behavior.

— Fannie Wolfe (@fanniesroom) January 6, 2018