"It was only when I heard a prayer that said 'she' instead of 'he,' when I heard God called 'mother' instead of 'father,' that I realized how much translating I had to do when I sat in church, how much energy I spent wondering if I was included, how much I longed for theological language I could see myself in."
-Sarah Sentilles, A Church of Her Own
I've had similar experiences.
We do not always notice what we have come to endure. We can become accustomed to alienation and sexism.
I read feminist blogs and books to remember this.